Do you call your husband honey, sweatheart, sweetie, pookie, hon, pumpkin, mugwump, snookie-ookums, love bug, cuddle face, cutie pie, biscuit, schmoopie, or another pet name? According to Maggie Arana and Julienne Davis,the authors of Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex, you could be sabotaging your marriage. Words have power and affect our perceptions, turning our spouses into roommates.
Now, I am a very reserved person, not one to talk about sex casually. The reason I agreed to review this book is because I am tired of seeing so many people divorcing all around me. When couples choose to strengthen their relationships daily and keep their interests on eachother, they won’t be seeking the attention of others. Not all, but a lot of that comes down to having a healthy sex life within the marriage. I hope that I can in a small way encourage you and your marriage with this book.
The premise of Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex is that once we take away our personal identities and calling each other by our names, we start to become simply friends and in the end, just roommates.
When was the last time you called your husband by his name or he called you by your name? I never thought about it until this book but when my husband calls me, “Cindy”, I love it. I really like to hear him say my name, weird huh? Apparently not, according to the authors of this book. Your name is part of your unique identity.
If you are calling your husband AND your kids “honey” or “sweetie” then what are you implying? Are you now the caregiver of your husband? Using the same name gives your kids and your husband ‘sameness’. That isn’t sexy at all!
Oh, and there is a whole section on not sharing bathroom habits. There are some things that should remain private and a bit of a mystery.
Another section is about staying separate to stay together. So many couples get so wrapped up in their spouse and kids that they lose their identity. I see this a lot with moms who only see themselves as a mom because they let everything else they are interested in go. This book talks about being yourself, bringing something new to the relationship. Basically, your partner doesn’t define you, he compliments you.
This book is full of great stories that drives points home. The authors talk to you like they are talking to their girlfriends about what they have found that works and doesn’t work in their own and other people’s relationships. It’s a good read and has practical advice to help any relationship.
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This was not a paid post. My own opinions were used based on my perceptions and experience. Thank you to ASCOT who provided the product for review.